Becoming Unstuck

I've been really feeling stuck for the past month. So stuck in fact that I havent been able to function in the business of my life as I usually can. The pattern in my life has been to suppress my STUCKEDNESS and just keep going as a responsible member of humanity is supposed to do right?

Well, during the month of May, it became impossible to continue to just keep going as per usual.

I didnt sleep. Sobbing occupied midnight to 6am. I avoided intimacy on every level. I experienced major panic attacks when my boys played rugby. I completely rejected one of my son's in my life. I worked day and night only going home to sleep. I avoided as many social activities as possible. Not only was I uninspired, however I couldnt even muster up any MOTIVATION to go to work at the office or do any sort of housework at home. In social situations that I dragged myself alone to, I became contraversial, obnoxious, drinking way too much and simply didnt bother with my usual nurturing of the group. I felt lost, alone and unloved.

All this time I worked with OTHERS to balance these very feelings. Yet my balance was lopsided.

I owned a house in the city - a very old heritage cottage which - yes - it is haunted. We moved our business into the top level - great location - heaps of space - a very funky office. The more time I spent there the more I noticed more activity with Vincent, our resident ghost energy. (the name just seemed to fit - no idea where it came from)The noises, scraping, scratching, banging and chilliness escalated and the business and the team began to experience unusual negative transformations.

A friend of mine who is a kinesiologist and a trained Hindu/Buddhist master gave his opinion about our experiences with Vincent. In his philosophy, Tibetans believed that in death, a soul trapped in between the dimensions is stuck in a state of flux. Perhaps when Vincent died he was infatuated and/or resentful and this kept him trapped and stuck in this energy field of flux - in this house - for whatever reason. Thoughts, (our logic), Feelings (our emotions) and Sensations (our physical body senses) hold vibration and frequency. Perhaps his fearkept him STUCK in between living and dead? Never having died, I have no clue - just making this stuff up!

As a certified facilitator in The Demartini Method®, I have been trained in how Infatuation and Resentment are powerful motivators, balancing each other and serving to cycle our behaviour. The Demartini Method® is designed to balance the charge of the infatuation/resentment, raise the vibration to an equilibrium and becoming light so I figured I would use the method on Vincent by surrogating myself with fascinating results.

Vincent was mirroring ME where I have been feeling stuck. This was actually all about me and Vincent was MY surrogate. So I used the TDM on myself and faced my own demons. It took me a while to do it, but when I embraced my own darkness in this house I no longer saw that it was dark and actually felt more of my own light and the power of THAT was overwhelming. I was SO afraid of my power and allowed myself to believe a mythology that was a lop sided perspective and only 50% correct. When I owned the space and gave Vincent the options of becoming light or flesh, I was actually opening myself up to my OWN options.

When the exercise was complete, I walked through the house and felt safe, light and at peace for the first time in my experience of it. For the first time I did not feel like anyone was watching me as I left the office.

The following morning, upon arrival, the office was in darkness a it had lost power during the night. Whether this had something to do with the rain or Vincent's energy transformation or MINE, I have no answer. However I "felt" different - Brave somehow, and peaceful.

Thanks Vincent for showing me where I felt "stuck"!

The Secret Is There Is No Secret

Ssssshhhhhhhhhhhh don’t tell anyone – it’s a SECRET!!!! And only you know!!!

Its funny - my brother and sister in law called me yesterday to say they just watched The Secret.
My children are now talking about it and everywhere I go, I hear people raving or bagging about it. For a while there I was caught up in the infatuation that maybe humanity was becoming more open to Universal and Natural Laws and that we were preparing globally to face the next five years in a greater state of enlightenment.

With the globe going crazy for The Secret, and all these media shows gunning for the Philosophers with equal fervent, I realized that perhaps we - humanity ARE heading for
an interesting shift - a transformation.

Remember the Law of Conservation – we have what we have – nothing more and nothing less.
Nothing is missing and nothing changes – it is already here in another form. Is it possible that the so called New Age Philosophy is actually all about this Transformation process?

The Law of Cause and Effect dictates that there is a balance – a natural law balance 50/50 – Yin and Yang – Day and Night – Up and Down. To know yourself, to know life is to understand universal and natural law. Natural Law needs the system and Universal Law provides the balance – the duality – the polarity. These laws are Philosophy and Science.

The Law of Cause and Effect is a Universal and Natural Law.
For one thing, It explains the Holy Trinity Game: The Victim, the Perpetrator and the Hero.
Eg You caused me this effect with your action.
Either I am hurt (victim), I hurt (perpetrator) or I stopped the hurt (hero)

Consider that We are all three.
Consider that We have been all three.
Consider that We will continue to be all three.

Whichever part you play in that game is a matter of perspective. This is the great paradox of life. This is one of The Secrets. This Holy Trinity Game is played when we live our life in judgement.We live our lives in judgement 50% of the time. A Judgement is a label that identifies a trait so we can understand it and manage it in a system. Every system requires labels. Life also requires us to dissolve labels and see ourselves as the SAME as everyone else.

This is the Law of Polarity and Duality.

Apply this to The Secret.

50% will infatuate The Secret and expect it to work without really understanding
the science. After a while, when things don’t CHANGE in the form they ASKED for, they will sink into a deep depression or resentment. (Depression is the manifestation of an unfulfilled Infatuation.)

50% will resent it and bag it straight away. People playing the Holy Trinity Game will pounce on so called New Age concepts like The Secret. Why? Because they feel RESPONSIBLE for others to tell them the truth. RESPONSIBLE = HERO – Truth – whose truth? There is the ego truth and the universal truth. TRUTH – Universal – may be perceived differently to the ego truth. Both truths are TRUTH. Playing the Holy Trinity Game is part of playing the Human Game. It provides an important balance.

Perhaps in approx 18 to 24 months a shift will occur in the 50% who infatuate The Secret. If it doesn’t work and doesn’t manifest and attract what we want, how will we feel?
For The Secret to have an impact, study and understanding is a pre requisite of the universal laws of duality, polarity and quantum physics (to name but a few) by first identifying and labeling and then collapsing judgment, in line with Life’s paradox, while living in gratitude and faith. (This concept is the basis of every theology that has ever been expressed. This is NOT a new concept.)

The infatuation % will actually have a greater % of perceived failures and the disappointment and resentment will create a greater resentment % than the original 50% who resented it in the first place. Those resentment 50% will gradually grow in appreciation of the same concepts but in a different form until both % are balanced with transformed beliefs.

The balance AFTER The Secret frenzy dies down is that it will be that the same % of people who study The Ologies, seek enlightenment (for want of a better word) and are willing to do the research and work will remain the same.

The benefits are that humanity gets the opportunity to raise its global frequency in alignment with the increase of the earths hum and balance the dying religion numbers. The drawbacks are that popular culture (movies, TV, art, and music) will be released to balance The Secret mania that will be reflecting darker and blacker frequencies. Become aware of popular television concepts and the ratio of horror movie releases. The more positive humanity becomes, the more we attract equilibrating events around the world to most certainly bring us all back to earth with a thud.

Therefore all will remain in order as it always has been and always will be. Nothing will change, a transformation will occur in our perspectives. That is what The Secret is all about - a Transformation. There is a Power to Positive Thinking and there is also a Power to Negative Thinking. BOTH are in order. Never expect to just think POSITIVE. Consider that when it is day light in Australia, it is Night in Italy. Both sides of the planet can NEVER be daylight at the same time. This is a natural law. There are benefits and drawbacks for BOTH.

The Secret is there IS NO SECRET. There IS NO rapid answer or quick fix. The Law of Attraction is true insofar as interconnectivity defines the universe. As a society, we do not have time to read philosophy, to engage in esoteric discussions, or to formulate theories. Even psychotherapy is too long and too costly an undertaking. We want the ready-made, the microwaved, the heat-and-serve, the wash-and-wear; we do not want to be bothered with serious study and careful analysis. We want answers at a discount, nicely packaged and ready to go. And that's what The Secret is all about. Ingenious marketing for the masses! I appreciate it and love Rhonda Byrne’s work!! Good on her!

My only suggestion is that she re markets it THE SECRET PART ONE. Then balance it with PART TWO so audiences can see the OTHER SIDE of the planet and therefore 100% of the picture.

The real secret is that all this New Age stuff that people love to ridicule and find so amusing is actually for real. Just like every major religion is at its core, before they've been perverted through the centuries. Quantum physics has tied together all the mysteries of consciousness that have been explained by Ancient cultures since the dawn of time.

Ssssshhhhhhhhhhhh don’t tell anyone – it’s a SECRET!!!! And only you know!!!

When in Italy

Italy - ah - get a dictionary - find all the adjectives - positive and negative - line them all up beside each other like dominos - and that pretty much tells you how it was.
First week and the Eurogate workshop were challenging confronting and unbelievable. Lake Como and the surrounding villages were like a fairytale with sledgehammer beauty. I uttered many a Bellismo upon my arrival. How embarrassment to have such a limited vocabulary. he he he. The language barrier really posed a challenge as I simply couldn't communicate with anyone and that bothered me no end. I realise that that is my THING - I need to communicate comprehensively and I couldn't charm impress or amuse anyone in English. So it was SI - GRAZIE - and lots of smiling. The flashing of cleavage also helped much. :-)

I detoxed from Diet Coke - 19 days fog free - yeah!!! So my first few days in Como were migraine and nausea filled but it was worth it! Everything closes in Italy from midday until 4pm for the traditional midday gluttinous pig out. 2nd day - I ran out of panadol at 12.30pm and freaked out that I couldn't find a Farmaccia that was open. By 4pm I was in a bad state - I no longer attempted to be polite in Italian - the chemist took one look at me - Hair askew, eyes hanging down to my kneed and in unstylish dishevellment - I very slowly and firmly said MAL DE TESTA COMPRESSOH PER FAVORE getting louder with each word. He rambled something back in fast Italian and all I could do was grab his shirt and repeat myself dramatically. He grabbed a box of something and escorted me out the door. He he he!!! I mustve looked a fright. I took 3 pills and slept for 16 hours missing my first bit of the workshop. chemical haze.................yeah...........

Every person I met in Como was a significant actor in my particular illusion matrix - I met spiritual healers, practitioners, speakers, trainers, actors, alchemists, magicians, witches, artists and enlightened beings. What a parada!

The second week was in Tuscany in a tiny isolated village - could have been the Himalayas it was so high and so removed from reality. Vellano is one of the 10 Castelli and over 1600 years old. I was submerged in the culture traditions customs and of course the Pasqua Easter festivals. It was brilliant. I loved being part of the community and totally existed on the kindness of strangers. I felt alive aligned and in tune with nature. Most of the old nonnas practice pagan craft so that was enlightening I tell you!!! My villa was inhabited by the ghost of the previous owner - a villager that was killed by the nazis in 1945. He wasnt malevolent just interested in getting my attention. Only 500 people living in the village and over each entrance door hung the freemasons symbol. Very interesting stuff happening in that place.

Third week in Florence was jam packed. I know that city back to front now. It has become my home town. They speak a little English there so it was easier. By the time I left the village however My Italian was markedly improved. However its not the words. It's the mythology the attitude the culture and the philosophy with their communication. It would take a lifetime to really communicate in their level. My hotel room in Florence opened up to a terrace which faced the Duomo one street away. Florence oozes Art Beauty History Language Culture from every pore. I was in heaven. Took a Chianti Winery Tour with a small group of people. The tour guide I'm sure had alzeimhers and kept forgetting what she was describing. "Here is a 12th century - ah - er - um - oh look theres a deer - ah - er - um - one day I found some beautiful irises - ah - er - where are we again?" OMG - she got us lost in the middle of Tuscany for two hours. The driver was objecting and she just bullied him into taking some obscure dirt road up some gorgeous mountain arriving in some unknown ancient village. How funny! Missed my italian cooking class that night as it took forever just to get back on track again on the tour.

Only in Italy.

Tuscany was settled by the Etruscans who had Greek origins. Florence therefore embraced a Neo Platonic philosophy in the renaisance era. I realised that this is an ancient version of The Secret. Which by the way was talked about by every single person I met!!! In the Uffizzi, I saw many signs and symbols used in the art which was masonic, kabbalistic and even illuminati!!! In the 18th century every single artist, author, scientist and enterpreneur in the western world hung out in Florence. The energy there is incredible - like living The Secret every second. It seeps from every pore in that city and in the people's attitude to life. Florentines expect beauty and wealth and dont accept anything outside of this illusion.

Challenges - I really felt homesick and missed the company and closeness of my children. Not being able to communicate and speak was a great challenge for me! I didnt realise just how much I love to talk. However I got to know myself very well, did heaps of writing and really enjoyed my own company. Yet wherever I went the Italians made such a big deal of a woman eating alone in a ristorante. That was uncomfortable. "Una?" and quickly remove the other cutlery with dramatic effect - ugh - I ate in this magical little café in front of Palazzo Vecchio - near the statue of David - and this waiter just continued with "Ah that's right its just you" "No shes alone" "Only one here" the entire meal. No tip from me. Couldve slapped him! :-) Met heaps of people though, many girls travelling alone yet no guys travelling alone. In fact had only two conversations with 2 guys the entire trip. Really learned so very much, had quite a number of mystical experiences (I actually went to church on Easter Sunday), was invited to speak at heaps of seminars coming up (Italy and Ireland) and really had a wonderful time.

Not one awful thing happened. Not one. The energy was balanced the entire time. One old nonna is the Vellano village declared that I must be protected by invisible angels as I had nothing but good fortune every moment.

Was it the magic of Italy or my magical belief about being in Italy?