Order Reigns
The family is the fundamental social dynamic. Order reigns no matter what.
Supposedly in the 21st Century, most families are dysfunctional. Compared to what?
The trick for humanity is to see that there is balance in regardless of how unbalanced it may all appear.
Relationships begin and relationships end with each setting of the sun. Watch the dynamics of your circle when one person leaves! Somewhere somehow one or many people will express what your ex partner did. You won't miss a thing!
In a family dynamic, what one-person represses, another will express.
In a social group, what one-person suppresses, another will express.
In a workplace, what one-team member represses, another will express.
In a society, what one individual suppresses, another will express.
For an interesting group exercise, I asked each of my children to make lists of everything they liked and loathed in each other. When I examined the lists, there was a balance of positives and negatives. Buttons are being pushed to express something that is being suppressed. This is an important function of family. Unfortunately, for some reason, the education of humanity does not seem to extend to this basic function and therefore families fight, fall apart and fail to see the beauty in the dynamic order.
We forget to see the love because holding onto the pain seemingly holds more short-term benefits. We forget that we are each privileged to be a part of each other’s growth and evolution.
Examine your life through the eyes of a scientist collecting valuable data for a case study. What you no longer express due to whatever reason will be expressed by someone around you. You may have been beautiful in youth and now your daughter expressed this on your behalf. You may have had a budding musical career in your 20s and now your eldest child expresses it on your behalf. Your artistic ability long forgotten in the day to day dirge will emerge in one of your mates. The anger you try so hard to hide will be loudly and resoundingly expressed and shared by a child, a parent or a partner or even a client. There is no escape. Nature is filled with scavengers - waste not want not. If you don't use it, someone else will.When they realise that we were all brought together for a divine purpose, eventually they will transcend into states of unconditional love for themselves and each other.
Our experiences - however painful or pleasureable they appear are exactly what we need. It may be perceived that our lives are failures and irresponsible and simply wrong. The reality is that our heart instinctively KNOWS there is some sort of divine order underlying the web of life and just nods and smiles whenever we question ourselves.
We’re all the same.
We’re all balanced.
We’re all in order.
All we need is the faith and the trust that all is in order.
